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It sounds like you're not in any kind of position to fight for someone else.  You need to spend some time fighting for yourself.  And, I expect as a side benefit a lot of those other problems will go away.   Gaming isn't a solution to financial problems.  Period. Neither is any bitcoin scheme out there.  Hard work on the other hand, is.   You're 27.  You're single.  There are a bunch of folks on here with families to support.  They'd find it hard to make it on minimum wage.  You on the other hand have a host of options.    You list your location as Donelson, so you're not out in Egypt with the Dollar General as your only option for employment.  I expect you're within walking distance of dozens if not hundreds of jobs open to someone willing to work.   What skills do you have.  Did you finish high school?  College?  You listed trying to get an old job back.  What's the story there?   You mentioned a car payment - and I expect that's on the Frontier you bought a while back.  A lot of people drive the very thing that holds them back financially.  In Donelson, I'd consider a $500 beater or a bike.  Get rid of the payment and apply that money to rent.  Do you have friends outside of your former fiancé?  Do you have options for roommates?   It's easy for us all to get down on ourselves sometimes - especially when we can't seem to catch a break.  But you're 27, young and single.  You've got options that a host of people on here would give anything to have.   Forget fighting for your former fiancé's affection.  I think you realize now that it's a losing proposition.  Instead, decide to fight for yourself.  There are 22,000 people on here who are pulling for you - and a bunch who are likely in a position to help you get to where you want to be.  You've got to figure out what that looks like. 

This thread has been harsh, with a bit of levity thrown in for good measure. You are 27 years old. We are giving you a wake up call. The truth isn't easy to handle sometimes, but in the long run, it will be good for you.   Gaming dude isn't coming. He is the least of your problems.   What I love about this forum is the fact that if you ask for advice, you will receive no shortage of it.   We wish you no ill will. We want you to be successful. That's the reason for the blunt advice.   We've all needed a kick in the pants from time to time. You are lucky to have friends here willing to do that for you.

  Would guess that just about every one of us here came from bad situations, not minimizing your issues, but we've already been there done that kinda stuff.  But you've got two options, you can stay comfortable in what you know and keep dealing with the drama or suck it up and make something better for yourself.  People don't 'make it' in life by sitting around dwelling on how bad everything sucks, they make it because they suck that sh!t up and move the f*** out.   Gordon on here probably has the worst medical situation of any of us around, and you will not see him make one post about how terrible everything is.  I'm probably pretty close behind him, busted my ass in the military got money for college (cause I was too dumb to get a scholarship and too white to get a grant), got in an accident that almost killed me in 2011, and while in ICU my wife was holding up the laptop so I could type with one arm and finish my capstone project to graduate in 30 days.   Point is we all got issues, some more than others.  What makes us different is if we use those as opportunities to make ourselves better or use them as an excuse to sit and fester.

  Hahaha... dude... you are FAR from weak.  That which doesn't kill us serves only to make us stronger, which means you my friend are a bona fide bad ass.

Want to hear about not awesome.   I was not planned and probably not wanted. Up to that point my father had been travelling and living it up until he knocked up my mother. Six months later he did the right thing by marrying her but that didn't mean he liked or even wanted me and it shows. My first memory, when I was 4 or 5, was of my drunken father laying me over the armrest of an old brown recliner as he beat me with a belt. Why was he beating me? Because I wasn't able to count to 10 in school. So he told me I had to count the hits. I would make it about 1/2 way and just to make it stop I would say 10. Then he would say it was wrong and start over. I bet I was beat for 20 minutes as I figured out how to count to 10 but it wasn't about me counting, it was about having someone to vent his rage upon because my mother had left my father a few months earlier because of his drunken, abusive antic and because he didn't have my mother to abuse anymore he took it out on me. Over the next couple of years I was beat by my father, my mother and my mother's boyfriend. And honestly those years are a blur. But I do remember being drug around by my arms, feet, hair or whatever they could grab a hold of as they beat me. A few years later my mother and father decided to get back together and that is things really got bad. I was beat with all kinds of things, daily. My father liked using unusual things to punish me and would find odd things or make things to beat me with. My mother's favorite thing to use was a straightened out metal coat hanger that she used to wail away on the backs of my legs. My father, for as long as I can remember, was ALWAYS mean to me. As I walked by he would grab the skin around my waist and twist it until it bruised. He would push me down or trip me then point and laugh. Anything I did that I was proud of he would destroy then laugh as I would cry. He would use locust limbs, with thorns, to beat me as he made me low crawl between the house and barn. And all this was before I turned 10. Oh, and my father's father was with us for a few years and he did pretty much the same thing so here I was, a 7-8 year old boy, being beat and tormented daily by those who are supposed to love and cherish me. My best memory of my childhood was waking up before they did so I could watch the Stooges without being afraid.   By the time I was 13-14 I was away form home a lot. I was getting drunk almost every day, being mean and fighting. But the biggest fight I had was to avoid going home because I knew the second I walked through that door I was in for a fight I could not win. The way it normally went was I would come home and my mother would lay into me, then my drunken father would start beating me and my mother would stand by and watch. My father would throw me through doors, into radiators and even loosened teeth by punching me in a drunken rage. Then my mother would come in and tell me it was all my fault that it happened. Even to this day she blamed me for when my brother tried to kill us. She said it was my fault for not giving him money for his drugs.   It was only after I was bigger than my father that things quit being physically abusive and things seem to settle down but I was still getting drunk all the time. They were still abusive but in a different way, they started using words and controlling behaviors. So again I would be gone with friends doing things I should not be doing. The vast majority of my childhood friends are in jail or have been in jail. And I should have been right there with them because I was drinking, fighting and just being a person no one wanted to be around. I was mean in my younger years, not just mean spirited but probably one of the meanest people I have ever met. And it is a struggle not to go back to being a mean person. And that is why I do not drink. It is because I say and do things that a normal person would not do. Most people who had an upbringing like mine do not turn out normal. I will say that I am far from normal and do have quite a few quirks and skeletons but all my adult life I have fought because I wanted to be one thing, not like my parents, and that fight goes on to this very day. There are people on the board who have seen first hand how my parents act towards me and how insane they are in their actions.   Something else, I do not remember my father ever saying he loved me, ever. And when I was getting ready to go overseas I went to visit him and when I tried to give him a hug goodbye he walked away and didn't say a word, no goodbye, no see you later just a cold shoulder. He cannot stand me and probably has more hatred for me today than the day my mother squirted me out. He probably sees me as the person who ruined the plans he had made for his own life. My parents have done nothing for me other than try to make my life miserable but they did do one thing, ensure I would do everything in my power to not be like them.   I do not say these things to trivialize what you are going through. I say them as proof that anyone can overcome anything as long as they work at it. And I am sure there are plenty of members here who have their own stories of adversity where they worked hard to overcome them. Your story is not new nor it is unique but you can overcome it. Trust me when I say you can be successful, it just takes some effort. It takes work, sometimes work where you don't get paid in money but work none the less, to get ahead in life. Personally I do not know you nor do I honestly give a crap about whether you stay with her or not but at this point anything you decide to do you need to do for you, not her or anyone else. If I had not decided to do something for myself I would probably be drunk and poor living in a singlewide trying to figure out what happened to my life. Instead I worked hard and got ahead. If life were meant to be easy what fun would it be when you win at life.   As far as what Sam said I am not as bad off as it could have been but I am worse than it sometimes appears. I piss myself every day, it is a fact of life since my accident. I spend most days laying in bed. My wife helps me get bathed and dressed. I sometimes have to walk with crutches but I also understand it could be a lot worse. My legs randomly quit working, if I am lucky the fall is a soft one but most cases it only makes the other things worse. I am still having issues from a fall a few months ago. I had a friend out this weekend. Spent a few hours helping him out and fought every second trying not to show how bad my back was bothering me. After he left I felt a sense of relief because I could finally get off my feet and go back to bed. And the other hope was that maybe he didn't see the pain in my eyes. I spent the rest of that day and the next two days in bed. It was only yesterday that I finally was able to finally feel well enough to get out of bed. I will tell you that I do hate my crutches, hate them more than anything in this world, because they are proof I am weak and I try to avoid using them until it is unbearable. Some days that threshold is minutes and some days I might get a few hours without them but I will ALWAYS need them. You do not know pain until you have someone else put your underwear on for you. I could belly ache about all this all the time but it does not good. I have tried wallowing in my own misery and trust me when I say it doesn't help at all.

  Discovering that you have 47 grandpas can be overwhelming :)

Me too. We all have our flaws I'm sure, but if this world had a few more folks as selfless as Gordon it would be a heck of a lot better place.

Dolomite is anything but weak.  One of the biggest, strongest people I know.   Bona fide bad ass is truth.

Gordon I am proud to call you my friend.

[quote name="luke9511" post="1173713" timestamp="1406719424"]my life is far from awesome, do you really think i want to live with my grandparents? HELL NO! i want a job where i can afford to get my own place, but guess what that has not happend yet not only that my fiancee is leaving and oh you will all be happy to know my grandparents are sell the house in another month and i will be homeless so thats a good thing, i am trying the best i can to make the best of a bad situation, do i play games yes and no look up second life, i have a store where i sell 3d objects and make just barely enough to pay on my car loan, if anyone here wants to demonize my mistakes have at it, cause i dont care, i came here asking advice on one thing, got advice for another and had everything i say takin out of context, im done lock the thread, delete it, burn it whatever, im done[/quote] Bud, when I was 18 I was on my own with a full time and part time job while going to school full time. It wasn't easy, but I supported myself and have never asked to borrow a dime from my parents. Not saying that I might have never been in a situation where I needed help, but if I had found myself back on my parents' couch I'd be spending every waking hour working to move out. I know things are tough out there, but I'm continuously baffled by people who go long periods of time as unemployed and blame it on the job market. I've been employed since I was 15. I've had to work some crappy jobs to cover the interim, but at least I was pulling down a paycheck while looking for something better. The only thing standing in the way if your financial independence is you. Accept that you might have to make minimum wage and work two jobs for a bit. That's part of being a man; supporting yourself. You're 27. Sack up and be a man, or admit that you don't have what it takes to be a grown up.

So today I decided to use some glow in the dark powder to put some night sights on my AK. Here is a picture of everything I used, except a drill and drill bit. The powder I am using was bought from here. I bought an ounce and it has lasted a very, very long time. I bet a 1/4 ounce will do 5-10 pistols. The powder is green but there is another seller that sells different colors. And those colors are available here. I have not tried the United Nuclear powder so I have no clue how it compares to the GlowInc powder. The epoxy I use is 5 minute Gorrilla brand but really any clear two part epoxy will work. Even though it says it sets in 5 minutes the actual cure time is much longer. So I started out by finding a drill bit close to the size of the white dot that is already there. The holes for most white dots are generally very shallow. And although the epoxy would probably work fine I do drill it out a bit deeper to get more material in as well as to ensure it doesn't come out. Before drilling, and after removing the white dot, there is not much more than a dimple so I took the drill, drill bit and went a bit deeper. This is a piece of stamped steel so I had to be mindful not to go completely through the metal but with handgun sights this is generally not a concern. Even so it is important to go slow and take your time. Here is how the front sight looked after drilling it. Next I start working on the epoxy and getting it mixed up. You do not want to use too much but you also do not want to use too little. I normally start with a dollop about the size of a dime. And once I get the epoxy thoroughly mixed I split it. Then ensures I have some in reserve in case I have added too much powder to the mixture and it is too dry. Then once I split the epoxy I pour enough glow in the dark powder onto the mixture to cover it. You can see my reserve epoxy in the background. Then I thoroughly mix the powder and epoxy but before dabbing it into the hole in the sight you must wait first because this is where it gets a little critical because you want enough powder so the sight will glow but not so much that the surface will not smooth. It will look like you have added to much but if you let the mixture set for about 15 seconds the surface should smooth out. If the surface does not go smooth then you add a little more epoxy but if the mixture goes smooth very quickly, like in 5-10 seconds, then add a little more powder. The mixture will smooth out with too much powder but it is too hard to work with and it might start to cure before it smoothes out. I added the powder to this one and because this one smoothed out too quickly. I added a little more powder. You can tell it smoothed too quickly because the dollop is still nice and round yet the surface is smooth. You want it to take a little longer, longer than 15 seconds, for the surface to smooth out. Then I began mixing again and after thoroughly mixing it I again let it sit for 15 seconds and this time it took a little longer for the surface to smooth out. Now comes the part where you fill up the hole you created with the drill bit. I normally start out will a lot less than it needs. The reason is I do not want an air pocket in the bottom of the hole. So I grab a little bit. And I mash it into the hole. You are not wanting to add enough to finish the sight the first go. You want to swish it around in the hole to ensure it completely covers the inside of the hole. Then once that is done you grab the same amount and sort of dab it on the mixture in the hole. The dab will be raised up with a tail but leave it alone and it will slowly settle down to a nice round dot that sticks up from the sight. Here is an example of a dab that is slightly sticking up. And it settled into the picture below. In this picture it is a bit too big so I wiped it away and took another dap to it. That is the beauty of this. If you screw up you can wipe it away while it is drying or you can just drill it back out if you don't like it after it has dried. There is about 10 minutes worth of work time for you to get it perfect. So after wiping it away I used a smaller dab and it turned out about perfect. So after you have the perfect dab you MUST position the gun so the sight is flush with the ground while the mixture cures. If you don't then you end up with an elongated dot rather than a round one. And even though the epoxy says it is 5 minute epoxy it generally takes about 15 minutes to harden enough to take the gun out of a vice but it is still not hard enough to touch, that generally takes an hour or two depending on temperature. And something else you can do is right after you add the dab, and before it tacks up, is sprinkle more powder onto the dot. This will give you more powder but it will also make the sight have a rough looking, and feeling, texture to it. Personally I like the nice round, shiny dot versus the dull one. The rough texture also gathers dirt quicker and dulls the sight so if this is a carry gun I would not do the rough texture finish. And although it is hard to judge, this is a picture of the dot after a 1 second charge with a flash light. That is in a room that is completely dark with no other light source other than the camera screen light bouncing off of me. I use this on all my guns and they are brighter than tritium sights for a several hours after being charged with a flash light. And even if it does dull out all it takes is a one second blast of your flash light. And finally, my directions might not exactly fit what you do. Epoxies are different, temperatures are different and what you want is different so it might take a little trial and error to find out what works for you. But even if you screw up you are out pennies. And one more thing. If you do not want glow in the dark sights but want the whitest sights you have ever seen you can use the same exact instructions except use titanium dioxide. It results in an extremely white dot that is also impervious to 99% of the solvents out there. I would also venture to guess you could also use it to fill in the markings on firearms even though I have not tried it. And it will work with any powder, regard less of color too. And as always, if you have any questions feel free to ask.

Dolomite, After reading your story, you Sir are a true definition of a real man. I don't know you personally but hope to meet you in person someday just to shake your hand. Joe W.

No irons?  You should be ashamed.  Every rifle needs iron sights.   (Nice build otherwise)

  Plenty of old farts around these parts. :)

 he did just say the girl is leaving, that is a step in the right direction. 

I can't believe the advise being given here. This guy has an awesome life! He is living rent free in grandparents house, he's got a sugar-momma taking care of his financial needs, gets to play video games all day, and has a sweet car.   Maybe he should follow the girlfriends lead and get a little side action going too.   /sarcasm

It is a M85 AK pistol in 223.

  Dude. That's kinda gay. :)

I think the other drivers between Nashville and Oak Ridge would probably appreciate it if you'd keep an eye on the road and not the stage descriptions while you are driving in Friday morning......

I own an LC9 and an SR9c. I just don't see the point of this LC9s. Maybe they should call the new one an LC9 and renamed the current LC9 to the LC9st (sh!tty trigger)? A development that would make sense would be an SR45c or sc (subcompact) or LC45 but what ever.

  If you run your mouth to a SEAL, or one of our other highly trained killers, you need your ass whipped. Not because of what you said, but because you're fucking stupid.

My wife thinks I'm stupid because I just laughed till I had tears when I looked that up Oh boy, educational this thread is

Lots of good advice. Language warning...   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uj0mtxXEGE8

He's eating popcorn waiting for the show to start (different views on your question)

Go to the Sherriff’s department and ask what authority security has to take the knife and if it was confiscated; where is it now. It may have been confiscated by legal authority, or it may have just been theft.

No disrespect intended, but you may be one of the only people on a gun forum to not know that .22 is a difficult commodity to obtain.

Hmmmm, bacon..... You forgot to link up a case of canned bacon http://www.amazon.com/Cans-full-Yoders-Canned-Bacon/dp/B0039LDMV6/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1406754309&sr=8-3&keywords=tactical+bacon

Or assassin's weapon. "Hmmm, Watson. Based on bullet markings, the victim seems to have been shot with multiple weapons."

Where is the option for SCAR?

I can't call him a friend as i've never met him, but I do count him among my heros. :usa:  :up:  :up:

  we always referred to it as Dutch Uncle's.  I have had a couple of them.   And now I am happy to return the favor when need be

A little bit bigger LC9 with a better trigger. Why didn't they just put a better trigger in an LC9?

How is it that we are this far along in the thread and it is STILL on the original topic?

Would it be wrong to ask for a picture of the fiancé? Only as a warning to all the single TGOers out there, of course.

Geez, I remember a day when I worked 88 to 96 hours a week, (40 at my security job, and 48 to 56 as a "part-time" police officer), at barely over minimum wage in order to support my family and reach my goal to be a full-time police officer. Most people have to work HARD to get where they want to be financially.

Do do do do , do do do do ....

Sounds like a grand opportunity for a new start. I wish you the best in your new endeavors.

I think I've decided to go with this. Can't go wrong with Leupold!

Now it has everything ...... with bacon!

this thread is pure win and there is zero reason to lock it.

[quote name="Clod Stomper" post="1173583" timestamp="1406680015"]I'm sort of afraid to ask exactly how that would work.[/quote] Stars have 5 points of contact. A starfish is like making her airtight, only she's doing the cross country skier whilst being thrice penetrated.

What if the new boyfriend drives down here and hits it off with the current boyfriend? What state would they have to go to in order to be married/ civil unioned, and would that be strong enough grounds to evict the cheating girlfriend?: lol: I think this thread officially has everything now. :lol:

Damn, David's post was good. :lol: :lol: Do not be at all surprised if that is a lie she told you. Obviously you can't trust this girl, it wouldn't surprise me of she's secretly been on the pill all this time and now that she thinks her free ride may be coming to an end, well... Might just be a medical miracle all of a sudden and she's got an income for the next 18 years! I hate to pile on, but you really don't seem to be getting it. Leave her. Now. No counseling, no second chance, both of you need to be out of Grandma and Grandpa's house by the end of the week. If nothing else you need to be stacking boxes in a warehouse or cooking eggs at Waffle House and living in a motel room for a week or two, and she just needs to be gone. Anywhere except where you are. As the others have said, it's time for both of you to put your grow up pants on and go see what the real world looks like. Why play video games simulating the real world web you can go live a real life? Or, you know...don't. Keep doing what you're doing, and end up exactly where you are now on three years with a kid or two that you can't support and her off who knows where with her newest sucker. I hate to sound mean here, but from your other posts in this thread I think that may be the more likely outcome. Get up, get out, go do something and build a little confidence in yourself because you really can do it. Nobody else can do it for you. Or... Don't. It's your life.

Mike at Law Enforcement Sales in Oak Ridge  he is the man for this

Just talked with them. They don't have a finished product just yet. But they are being manufactured right here in Gallatin...

If you give her chlamydia you won't have to worry about her ever again.

  It's much easier to unload a tube-fed lever action rifle instead of racking each round to clear it. 

Well the state legislature lifted knife restrictions, passed a bill not to charge a person who doesn't have a HCP to carry a loaded firearm in their vehicle, so I guess the next step is to pressure them to lift restrictions on carrying impact weapons and brass knuckles. That would be an option for some who don't have a HCP and want some protection.

Keyword, "legal". Because there is no such thing as a justice system anymore.